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can you date someone if you are a christian and they are not? | |
i am a christian and i have been dating this guy for 9 months now. we broke up once because i had this what felt like a deep conviction about being with him because he dose'nt serve my god he serves the devil. he's not worried about were he will go when he dies,were his eternity lies we dont agree on anything related to the bible and if i try to ask him why he dosent fear god he replys in a careless answer and it results in dissapointment and agravation. the reason i am having this struggle is the bible says, " not to be unequally yoked together with nonbelievers.." i feel as if god has revelated this to me because i have been in past relationships with "nonbelievers" before and they are a big hinderance in your walk with christ. most people say, "there is nothing wrong with that as long as you dont do anything wrong" & " that only means if your going to marry that person", im not sure if he's the one and i dont want to be that person that does that to people. this completly confuses me because 1st you shouldnt play with peoples emotions and date around, your basically giving a piece of your heart to everyone and when the one that god sends along finally does come while you should have been waiting for him, you have nothing left to give him, which feels like exactly what im doing. what puzzles me is there is so many more people who say that it pertains to marriage. but in that verse there is nothing about marriage nor is there a reference. i feel as if even you have friends who dont serve god can also be characterized as being "unequally yoked together" not to say you should never talk to them but surrounding yourself closer together with people who are in the covvenant does help. i feel as if it is too big a risk to put on the line. who's to say your the person to lead them to the lord. i feel as if i am careless about what i am doing when i am around him, and i want to be with him, but when im by myself i feel as if i should break up with him and i have this deep depressing conviction and i see that he is pulling me down. but ive never been alone and it's scary to think about. i dont want to make a mistake, and i dont want to hurt him but i feel as if im hurting myself. someone please give me some insight! it would be greatly appreciated.
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From: Melissa
well it sounds like you know the answer you just want some confirmation. those convictions are from the holy spirit and should not be ignored. we are not to be unequally yolked. you are right, we don't have to abandon our unbelieving friends but we should surround ourselves with believers. the bible says "what does darkness have to do with light?" i understand your fear of being alone, but the reality is, you won't be alone. jesus never leaves us. he is with us all the time. when you are by yourself and when you are with your boyfriend. when you are with your boyfriend imagine jesus is literally and physically sitting with you...would you be ashamed of anything you do? say? you are also right to say he serves the devil because the bible says if you are not for god then you are against god. our father would not match you with an unbeliever. god knows best and he alone can bring you the perfect partner. i think you know the answers to your own questions, don't ignore what the lord is telling you. call on his strength to do what you know is right.
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